I firmly believe that there are 2 ways to live. That could be an oversimplification, but let’s just follow this train of thought for a moment.
I could be an opportunist or I could live a purposeful life. The latter being a more defined life and the former a more all over the place life.
My question to you is are you an opportunist?
To explain my position, let’s say you want to play music full time. You go hang around musicians or chat to them and stand and hope you get in with the right people. And let’s for argument sake say you do get in with a band. So you play for a while and you meet some other people and they seem more interesting and you decide to leave because that is really what you wanted to do. YOU ARE AN OPPORTUNIST. You have no defined goal and you simply drift in the general direction that you want to end up in.
Also you end up using people to get where you think you need to go.
In short your life is open to the better deal always.
You sit down and decide where you want to go and plan it out (even a rough guide line). You still do the same as before by hanging out with musicians, but the difference is that you know where you want to go. It defines your choices. You can say no to some opportunities because you it does not fit into your over arching goal.
It does not mean you do not take opportunities, it just means your purpose defines which opportunity you take.
Every opportunity does not send you into a decision fit. Should I should I not, should I should I not……
Then you are a purpist (a person who lives with purpose)
Which one are you?