We live in a simple yet very complex world.
Simple in the sense that it does not take a lot to live in the daily grind. We drink, eat, work and sleep. And all things in between….right?
Its when we try and get by with the other people on earth that things start getting a bit complex. Since none of us are telepathic (at least I am not), in order for us to get along with others we have to do that dreadful thing and use words to describe what we would like to convey to the other person.
We all have blind spots and this leads to further complexities. Since most of us like to point out the other one’s blind spots, it gets more difficult to balance it all.
So what can we do to help the process?
I am open to suggestions………….
But I was thinking the other day, what is our collective blind spot, you know the “one thing” that prevents us all from seeing eye to eye?
Here I will throw my opinion and I stress opinion…. I think our biggest blind spot is that…………
We all think everyone else thinks like we do.
It is a real problem if we sit think like that, because although we all have our own biases and beliefs, we tend to interpret things in a way that we see it.
Our hurts, hurt more because we think that the person thinks about that issue just like we do. And since we so deeply think about this issue, we assume they meant to hurt us deeply.
Just a thought, and a quick one today…. What do you think?
the Honest one
I agree and also think life would be a lot easier if we accept people just the way they are.
Great question. Best answer I have ever heard is Dan Gilbert’s. You can read it at http://www.randomhouse.com/kvpa/gilbert/blog/200607tears_in_the_wayback.html
I agree Lynley, I’ve been thinking more and more about it, the it being the “collective blindspot” I like the description – if we are more compassionate and empathetic, placing ourselves in someone’s else’s shoes, we’ll be less self-centred and truly live out the love of Christ to others. I think the collective blindspot is attributed to either laziness or the proverbial ‘comfort zone’ it’s easier to be selfish and judgemental, it’s harder to make an effort to reach out and understand someone else’s point of view. – Food for thought