September 14


The Honest Truth

At first glance the honest truth sounds like redundancy, but I assure you its not. Honesty and truth are not the same thing.

Let me explain. When I was younger, I really believed that my parents never loved me. Honestly, if you had asked me then I would have said it with a straight face. And of course, because I believed that, all actions seemed to validate it. But it was not true, they really did love me, I just could not understand that they showed it differently to what I wanted or needed then.

Its what I call globalizing a local situation. You know what I mean?

A woman gets hurt my a man in a relationship and suddenly all men are dogs. Thats globalizing a local situation. The woman is taking an honest situation and building a truth out of it (for her anyway) and applying it to all. You get what I mean?
We all do it to a certain extent, when we get sick, suddenly it seems like we will be this way forever and we panic. But then we get better. Or maybe its just me, since I hate the doctor. Or even worse, the dentist, I have an ache and I reason how I will live with the pain (rather than have it seen to ha ha ha).

Honesty and truth are not the same thing. Truth is always true, honesty is dependent on our perception. We get it wrong so often and I hope people would understand the difference.

To the woman who has had her heart broken, yes he has hurt you, but its not true that all men are like that.

To the one who takes an honest look at their life and realise they do not like it, and want to end it because its too much for them to handle, don’t because its not true that you cannot make it through. Yes you are being honest, but it will change, all of life is not like this moment. Yes its just a moment. The moment is not worth taking your life.

Its not good to globalize what is local, or better put. Make permanent what is clearly temporary. Its not always good to build a life truth out of an honest situation, it might just be your perception of it.

If only we will learn that honesty and truth are not always the same thing………



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  1. One persons truth is another persons lie. It all relative. From outer space Joburg is at the bottom of your shuttle window yet we still say ‘going up to Joburg’ and ‘down to Cape Town’.

    1. That depends on someone’s perception of the truth, but I assure you truth is anything but relative. Truth is constant whether we agree with it or not. Like gravity it does not care whether you agree with it or not, it simply is.

      In your example Joburg is still where it is and Cape Town still is where it is, its just the person making a comment from their perspective (they being honest) but the truth has never changed.

  2. Well said.

    I come to realise that it is important to take time and think about the difference between the two. The walls that we so easily build to protect us is the walls that can cause us to “die”.

    I just want to say: Cape Town is at a lower sea-level than Joburg 😉 that is the truth.

  3. Lynley, good post.

    I guess it is very appropriate considering the name of the blog.\

    I’m glad that you are starting to realise that, in your own words “Its not good to globalize what is local.” Ah, the joy of blogging! Maybe now All the Women, and All the Australians, and All the ………….. will get a break from the damage done by the few that you have met.

    I look forward to reminding you to practise what you preach in this post. 😉

    Love you brother.

    1. Or should I rather say: that I look forward to standing by all who integrally and honourably begin practising what this post preaches and follow you as you lead by example the very appropriate and Christlike values that thehonestone stands for…..

      May we all speak the truth and walk in it as we become more like Christ and reveal him to those around us.

      Thanks for this blog. I trust that it will have much effect not only on the way we think, but eventually influence the way we live.

      Bless you all


    2. The Women and Australians will never get a break from me, because what I speak is the truth about them. Ha ha ha. What everyone else needs to be is honest about that, the n you will see what I see……

  4. This is a great post! I often find myself telling the truth (the facts that are real and true) without maybe giving my totally honest opinion on a matter. Always a little worried my honesty will hurt feelings!

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